tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post9130053426347075909..comments2013-06-08T13:00:11.569-04:00Comments on The World According to Krissy: Rant #1, Brides and weddingsKrissyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02162659300912825363noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-61642782253341611142009-07-10T10:04:24.918-04:002009-07-10T10:04:24.918-04:00That woman drives me NUTS!!! Does selfish-wanker s...That woman drives me NUTS!!! Does selfish-wanker sound about right? The fact that I was able to pay off the balance of my credit card was awesome. And did I tell anyone that a huge chunk of wedding gift money went to buying a new clutch? If it wasn't for the money or the clutch, there would have been no honeymoon. Did I want a new clutch? No, but it's a gift I will use for a very long time :)New Wifehttp://newlifeasnewwife.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-81581379109933947882009-07-08T05:22:24.250-04:002009-07-08T05:22:24.250-04:00George is right!
when I got married many moons ago...George is right!<br />when I got married many moons ago - I didnt expect any gifts and the gifts ten years later that stick out are the " cheapest" someone made us mugs and a clock with our wedding pics on them. my other favorite gift was hand made candles and of course my absolute favorite was the man who took me as his partner for life PS> thios is Shel I forgot my user nameAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-32245703012089800362009-07-07T17:33:54.550-04:002009-07-07T17:33:54.550-04:00Yup... Let that be a lesson to you folks... Gambli...Yup... Let that be a lesson to you folks... Gambling is bad... She loses a bet and gets stuck with me for life.RainManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07109477382301112569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-25126639158209398002009-07-07T17:03:45.224-04:002009-07-07T17:03:45.224-04:00*lol*....in case any one is wondering, Rainman is ...*lol*....in case any one is wondering, Rainman is my hubby. See why I married him?Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162659300912825363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-82309077733302601932009-07-07T11:59:08.457-04:002009-07-07T11:59:08.457-04:00Sadly it seems to be a recurring mindset that the ...Sadly it seems to be a recurring mindset that the gifts received by the guests should cover the costs of the wedding and ceremony. basically, throw a huge lavish ceremony and party and get everyone you invited to pay for it so you have no out of pocket expenses or debts... seems almost an offshoot of the age old traditions of the parents of the couple covering the costs so the bride and groom aren't going broke to pay for everything.<br /><br />Times have changed though. While sometimes the parents are affluent enough or are simply able to do so, the reality is that this is no longer the norm. So, the bride and groom now cover much or all of the costs themselves, sometimes to a large expense.<br /><br />Here's the thing though... if you don't want to have a large out of pocket expense or debt, don't expect the guests to pay for it. Pay your nominal fees, go down to city hall and Bob's your uncle, you're married on the cheap. If you want to do the big ceremony and the reception, you want the open bar and the DJ and extravagances like limo service or what not then it is your decision and not that of your guests. They should not be held accountable for your costs of your decision. Expecting a standard or price of "gift" for the dubious honour of being invited to such an event is nothing more than a thinly veiled cover charge.<br /><br />And really, using the pathetic defense of this attitude as stating that no gift or a cheap gift is thoughtless doesn't fly. The thoughfulness on the part of your guests is attending this event when they more than likely had a nearly infinite number of other things they would rather be doing. The guests aren't showing up for a free meal and booze (at least not as a primary decision making reason), as for the cost of their preperations to attend the wedding they could have quite easily fed and boozed themselves. the thoughfulness on the part of the guests is in RSVP'ing and attending to take part in the celebration with you.<br /><br />Gifts are nice, and are always welcome, but are never to be considered a mandatory thing or to be judged on a scale of some worthless self perceived value. <br /><br />Now if you'll excuse me I'm taking my soap box and going homeRainManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07109477382301112569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-22412864907724378832009-07-07T03:42:59.086-04:002009-07-07T03:42:59.086-04:00Well said! I'm a fan of smaller, more intimat...Well said! I'm a fan of smaller, more intimate weddings as well. As for the gifts received; I would agree that they are very likely a reflection of the closeness and quality of the relationships you've built. I'm sure also that with the aforementioned "500 people" at some of these larger weddings, many are merely acquaintances; hence the "cheap"er gift!Steve Reillynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-39923375349785859862009-07-06T18:47:39.416-04:002009-07-06T18:47:39.416-04:00Yeah it''s pretty sad. I used to love bei...Yeah it''s pretty sad. I used to love being there and I feel sorry for brides that are having to deal with this. It really takes away from the joy of having a support group. Of course you always have us at the old married boards :)Krissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162659300912825363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-854754778135932811.post-5937647340738383822009-07-06T17:57:45.197-04:002009-07-06T17:57:45.197-04:00I know what you mean and which posts you mean. I t...I know what you mean and which posts you mean. I think that's why I've been more on the living board lately, because I'm getting sick of all the wedding drama and I'm not even done yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com